NVC COACHING AND MEDIATION
Would you like to learn how to speak to make it easier for others to listen?
You've tried talking to your partner about something important to you and they respond time and again in a defensive, dismissive or closed way.
You manage a team of people who are in regular conflict and yet you are under pressure to make it all work out for your organisation.
You need to come to an agreement with someone and you have reached a communication impasse.
My work revolves around human connections
As a certified Nonviolent Communication (NVC) trainer, qualified mediator and experienced facilitator I am here to open doors to better, more creative CHOICES. I am passionate about creating a culture of true listening, collaboration and interdependence. I've spent the last thirty years exploring and helping clients arrive at a place of increased joy, meaning, purpose and self-acceptance whilst integrating heart-mind, mind-body, being-doing and then, step by step, to live this into being.
Who uses NVC Coaching and Mediation
These sessions are designed for people wishing to resolve conflict and improve communication with others. Some examples are:
Wanting support to transform a conflict with someone
Experiencing regular disconnects or a communication dead-end in a relationship with a loved one
Wanting to learn how to speak up for your needs
Needing to make a choice but can only see either-or options and neither is appealing
Wanting to improve connection and communication in a relationship with someone
Packages and Sessions format
We start one step at a time. All prospective clients are invited to a complimentary Discovery Call to assess your needs and determine how we can work together. I make recommendations based on our talk and your wishes.
Sessions format can be one to one and/or inviting relevant individuals as appropriate. I am based in Wales for in-person sessions and I also offer online support via Zoom.
If you are looking for training, we can discuss your group, charity or organisational needs.
Concessions are available based on gift economy. I prioritise people living within my local area (Carmarthenshire, Ceredigion and Pembrokeshire in Wales, UK) and who are committed to doing the work.
NVC Coaching and Mediation Packages
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Restorative Conversations
(best entry choice)
Seedling Package for individuals / two people
5 sessions - online (or in person)
£425 for individual coaching
£645 for couple/two people support60-75 min sessions when supporting individuals
For two people I usually start with a 1 hour session each then 3x 90 min joint sessions
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Other Prices
Individual Sessions
£95 - 60-75 min sessionJoint sessions
£125 ph then £45 per 30 mins in same sessionSapling Package for Individuals
10 sessions - £795 (best value for money)Sapling Package for 2 people
2x ind. + 8x 90 minute joint sessions
£1250 (best value for money)
Concessions may be possible - please ask if needed
Nonviolent Communication Training for Charities and Small Groups
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Beginners Foundation Training - 1
A one day training to give you the basics of Nonviolent Communication skills.
This will introduce the participants to the power of a new paradigm in communication - one that goes beyond blaming without giving up or giving in.
For 6-9 people (please contact me for rates for bigger groups)
This day focusses on self empathy and listening skills whilst also outlining the basic elements of Nonviolent Communication.
The day includes
Stepping towards compassionately embracing the inner stories and pain we all carry.
The basics of listening and empathy without giving up on yourself even when you don’t agree with the other person’s view.
The basics of expressing your needs without blame, criticism or judgment
Learning how to hold onto your own needs as you listen out for the others’ needs
The basics of making good requests
Participants will get some practice of the basic principles and a self-empathy exercise to go home with.
Please contact me to discuss price.
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Beginners Foundation Training - 2
A two day training to give you the basics of Nonviolent Communication skills. These two days allow for more practice time and integration of the basic skills and is highly recommended over the one day course.
For 6-9 people (please contact me for rates for bigger groups)
Day One - the inner journey
The four steps of self-empathy
Sensing into your body’s expression of emotions and widening your feelings vocabulary.
Practicing catching the reaction moment and creating space
The radical act of compassionately welcoming your inner judgments
Learning how to translate your thinking and feelings into something that has more power to connect with othersDay Two - the outer journey
Listening with curiosity and practicing empathy
Expressing your needs without blame, criticism or judgment
Learning how to listen out for the other person’s invisible core needs when they express themselves in blame, criticism and judgments
The basics of making good requests
Connecting to your authentic yes or no when receiving others’ requestsPlease contact me to discuss price.
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Intermediate
Once you have learned the basic principles of NVC, like any language, you need to practice to become more proficient.
It is strongly recommended that foundation trainings are followed up with practice as like any skill, practice helps knowledge become embodied skill.
Generally, once a group has done a basic foundation, I discuss with them a bespoke package to meet their needs.
If you have done a foundation training elsewhere and are wanting more learning, do contact me to discuss your needs.
Client Testimonials
“ I want to acknowledge the big part you have played in my growth Penny. You provided a safe “holding” space I could lean into, and gave me trust, until I developed enough trust in myself. I could not have achieved this on my own. Thank you for believing in me, seeing past / through the spikiness! ”
— Therese B, Retired school teacher
It is very powerful to observe how Penny enables people to get in touch with themselves - staying with them in a truly empathic, supportive way”
— Jan, Retired Accountant
“ Thank you Penny, I hugely appreciated your presence, calmness, skill, persistence, integrity, warmth and and and... I really was blown away by how the call unfolded, and it felt such a privilege to see where we had all come to by the end of the call. ”
— Alice S, Author
“ I found Penny just as I was deciding to leave my marriage of twenty years. I was so sad and lacking confidence in myself. The clarity and relfection that she helped give me has helped me build a new life and learn much about myself on my way. I now trust my values and live by them. This has given me huge strength and courage.
I recommend Penny from the bottom of my heart and have nothing but huge praise, gratitude and admiration for her ability to empathise and guide one on one's way.
— Amy, Mother and Humanitarian
SOME OF THE BENEFITS MY CLIENTS REPORT
Relief
Relief for being heard, understood and witnessed
Relief
One of the main feelings my clients report when they start working with me is relief. Most people feel stuck and alone with their conflict or dilemma. Having the experience of being heard rather than judged and gently guided and held to find their own clarity and own next steps as they move through the challenges brings sweet relief.
Honesty
Being able to speak up in integrity with you
Honesty
Being fully honest with oneself or with others is not always easy. We can touch into shame and embarrassment. I hold a safe space for you to say whatever you need to without risk of being judged by me. My training and life’s practice is to listen beyond the words to the deeper needs that are trying to be expressed and to reflect that back to you.
Supported
Not holding the conflict or dilemma alone
Supported
Holding a conflict alone can be a lonely business and we can become stuck in circles of thinking that go nowhere. My clients report that, having a third person who is not entangled in the conflict and who has the skills to support true listening happen relieves them of the loneliness, helps them feel heard and witnessed and allows for creative solutions to emerge.
I’M PENNY SPAWFORTH
After much searching and seeking, I found real peace in my relationships
It is a continual movement of growth as we are all humans having different experiences, but my grounding values of interdependence always support me in moving forward with love, compassion and renewed choices.
I’ll be delighted to support you get unstuck and learn new ways of relating that will serve for years to come.
FAQs
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In most instances sessions are available either online (with Zoom) or in-person in North Pembrokeshire, SW Wales
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If needed and requested I offer a 20% discount to residents of SW Wales (Pembrokeshire, Carmarthenshire and Ceredigion). I am also sometimes able to offer concessionary rates upon request
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Please contact me here to make your request.
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Although through experience I have come to find that booking in blocks of 5 or 10 sessions works for most people, there are exceptions. If the packages I offer don’t seem to fit what you are wanting or needing, do book a complimentary Discovery Call with me to discuss your situation.